The Gifts of the Old Year and the Hope for the New

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I Love a New Year. It’s a new start, a time for renewal, and a time for new hopes and dreams.

But it’s also a time to reflect on the happenings in the year gone by.

Both good and bad or should I say “perceived good and bad.”

Let me just say that 2016 has been a tough year in many many ways, but it also has had many gifts too.

I like to ask myself these questions so that I don’t miss out on some of the hard earned gifts of the year gone by:

  1. What have I learned? What can I take away from 2016?  
  2. What new desires have been born in me because of my experiences?  
  3. What can I look forward to in the New Year? Where can I focus my hopeful energy?

1. What I learned in 2016

–I’ve learned that those with the most difficult roads are often the ones who complain the least and appreciate the most.

–I’ve learned more deeply that being a mother is my best teacher for the evolution of the soul. It pushes me to my limits of practicing  deep compassion, reaching for new wisdom, and practising detachment in a healthy way.

–I learned that I’m brave and that I can do scary things and come out better for it on the other side!

Wow- those are some pretty great gifts that 2016 has brought me!

2. What new desires have been born because of my experiences?

–I want gentleness and to embody it in my life. I want gentleness in my thoughts, words, and actions. Simple. I want to live a gentle life and have more gentle relationships.

–I want to be an even better mother and show my children that they design their own lives. Yes, things come your way that are often difficult to  deal with, but ultimately you have the freedom to choose your path in each and every moment. I want to practice choosing an even higher vibration, and an even higher energy. That’s the essence of consciousness. Knowing the choice is there to shift or not.

–I want to push my limits even further to do other things that I’ve always wanted to do.  Scary or not. I know I can do hard things:)

3. Now what can I look forward to in 2017?

On December 10th, 2016 I signed a book contract with my two lovely co-authors Florence Strang and Natalie Finlay.  So 2016 also brought the wonderful gift of a book contract for a manuscript that’s been in the making a very long time. It’s been hard work, it brought a lot of personal growth, and a lot of healing in the process.

It’s called Soul Steps: 52 Ways to Reconnect with Spirit.

I’m so grateful and I can’t wait to share it with you!

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So now I encourage you to ask yourself the same questions.

Don’t let the gifts of 2016 slip from your awareness without acknowledgement.

Take a moment to reflect on these questions:

What have you learned? What can you take away from 2016?

What new desires have been born in you because of your experiences?

What can you look forward to? What are your hopes and dreams for the new year?

Did you take aware some great awarenesses from 2016 -leave a comment and tell us what you learned!

Until Next Time, Veronica

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THE ALOHA SPIRIT

FullSizeRender-6 copy 3.jpgMy sister AnnMarie, recently took me to Hawaii for my 50th birthday!

Of course we had an amazing time together and many adventures – an open door helicopter ride, hiking diamond head, and swimming with the turtles.

Since I’ve been home I find myself thinking about the special quality of the people on the Island of Honolulu.

Their beautiful greeting is a significant part of what I remember.

More than a simple greeting, it’s a way of life.

It holds a sacred representation that is palpable.

ALOHA …

An expression of love

It reminds us to be in the present

To be humble

To be kind to all living things

To be truthful

To be patient

A recognition that we are part of everything – the comfortable and the uncomfortable, the joy and the pain

Aloha is life itself

Aloha is breath

What a beautiful and unique reminder of living a conscious life.

A reminder used so often every single day.

This got me to thinking about our greeting — ‘Hello’

Did you know that Hello means ‘Stop and Pay Attention’

This makes me laugh because that’s precisely an imperative awareness when getting more conscious in your life.

First STOP negative ways of thinking, feeling, and acting and then PAY ATTENTION to the present moment to connect with your spiritual side. This is the beginning of change.  Of course there are many things you can learn to help you do this but STOP and PAY ATTENTION certainly captures the essence.

I Love the synchronicity of both greetings.

So whether it’s the beautiful ‘Aloha’ greeting of the people of  Hawaii, or the familiar ‘hello’ of our own culture, remember the deeper meaning when you greet your fellow human being…

Pay attention.

Be present.

Love is what’s important.

We are all the same.

We are part of everything.

ALOHA

Veronica

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Gather Your Scattered Energy

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When you let your ego mind lead, your energy will scatter to all the little dramas in your life.

Think of it as bleeding energy to every negative thought you have, every busy moment, every physical discomfort, every argument with others.

Remember you are not your thoughts and your thoughts don’t rule you unless you let them.

The reality is that most of us let our thoughts run the show.

But we are not our minds.  We are much much bigger than our mind energy.

This energy is for our use.  We are not meant to be lead around by it.

Learn to be aware of where your energy goes and how it’s used.

Take the time to gather your inner power, pull it back into your heart space.

“Meditation is the key to your spiritual practice. If you have the right key in your hand, no matter how tightly the lock is closed, when you take the key and turn it the lock falls open, if you use your mediation key you’ll open your intuitive heart to your heart’s desires.”  AJAHN CHAH

Sit in stillness.

Breathe

Walk in nature.

Breathe

Listen to uplifting music.

Breathe

Gather your energy.

Pull it in.

It’s yours to use as you please.

It’s yours to care for as well.

Learn to open your intuitive heart to your heart’s desires.

Begin by gathering your energy.

and breathe:)

Veronica

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The “Bad” Experiences are Just as Valuable as the “Good” Experiences.

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Do you label your experiences as Good or Bad?

Your feelings as Right or Wrong?

Both are equally valuable.

Both lead you to turn in the direction of what you want and where you want to go.

Both help refine your choices.

Don’t discount those rocky roads.

Don’t abandon something because it’s “just too tough” or “not what you expected.”

The rewards, the learning, and the sense of accomplishment is on the other side of discomfort.

Rocky roads are bumpy, tedious, and sometimes super slow!

Instead of giving up or thinking “this is so hard it just can’t be right.”

Realign your thoughts.

Know that You CAN Do Hard Things.

Tell yourself.

“I CAN Do Hard Things.”

Because the truth is … you Can!

On the other side of discomfort is more confidence and a knowingness that you CAN do what needs to be done when getting where you want to go.

Don’t let discomfort turn you away from an exceptional learning experience or from exceptional outcomes.

Realign your thoughts.

Keep moving towards what you want.

Know you have the ability to get through tough situations.

Veronica

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To Be Grateful OR Not To Be Grateful

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A growing body of research continues to support that an attitude of gratitude has tons of benefits – it improves your relationships and helps you feel like you’re bonding better with others. It improves your emotional well being because you release those good feeling hormones in the brain when you think thoughts that feel good. It also improves your health because it has been shown to calm anxiety, help you sleep better, and decrease feelings of depression.

But gratitude is not just about keeping a journal or saying thank you. In order for gratitude to truly transform your life it’s important to:

  • Feel the gratitude in your body because it’s a practise, it involves both a mental and emotional shift.
  • Lessen the activities that are the opposite of gratitude. The practise of gratitude is not just shifting into the feeling of appreciation but also shifting out of unappreciative habits that keep you in low energy.  Habits like:
    • complaining
    • blaming
    • criticizing
    • having an irritable disposition
    • raging at other drivers
    • rushing around with your kids

If you want the benefits of gratitude you also need to look at how you’re blocking gratitude in your life.  How can you STOP the block of gratitude? It’s an important part of creating the life you want.

To truly create the positive flow of energy that gratitude brings, you may want to make this shift – consciously choose gratitude but also be consciously aware of when you’re choosing something else.

In gratitude:)

Veronica 

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The Gifts of Worry

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So you’re worried about your child, your finances, your marriage, your health, or your parent’s health. All of the above?

Worry that loops in your mind and causes a reaction in your body projects the energy of what you’re worried about into the future.

It keeps the energy alive.

You then think more thoughts that make you feel more worried and because you feel more worried you become frozen in procrastination.

Procrastination creates even more feelings of worry because the solution is no where in site and in turn you get stuck deeper and deeper in non action perpetuating the problem even further.

In the end you’re left with feelings of Deep Helplessness.

Sound familiar?

Believe it or not Worry has it’s Gifts.

Yes it does.

Tend to your worry.

Ask yourself what exactly drives your worry?

Name it – say it out loud or write it down. This dissipates the energy. It makes it manageable. It takes you from being IN the worry to seeing that you can have space. Space between you and your circumstance.

Now you can begin to see that you are actually outside the circumstance. You can watch the storm but not be blown away by it.

Ask yourself “What needs to be done?”

Soothe your procrastination and perpetual momentum for worry by taking small actionable steps towards the solution.

Let your mind think thoughts of progress instead of thoughts of overwhelm.

Go ahead be picky about what you think. Choose thoughts that serve you.

You don’t need to do everything at once.

Watch your feelings of helplessness turn to empowerment as you prepare for what’s in front of you.

Take advantage of the wonderful gifts of worry.

Preparation… Awareness … Focus … Action

Do what absolutely needs to be done in this moment.

It’s usually a small thing.

Dissipate your worry and project something different into your future.

A viable solution.

Something you create yourself by tending to your feelings of worry.

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Ebb and Flow

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Being Awake – being mindful, is about being present in the only moment you have.

This present moment.

It’s not about being at peace all the time.

There will always be difficult moments that rise up and then subside.

There will always be the ebb and flow of pain and discomfort.

But also the ebb and flow of happiness and laughter.

Neither is meant to be avoided and neither is meant to stay.

It’s just your experience.

Both have tons to teach you:)

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Not Right or Wrong. Not Good or Bad.

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Are you afraid to change because you don’t like to feel uncomfortable when you try something different?

Do you shy away from that difficult conversation because you feel uneasy?

Or do you avoid moving to higher ground because you think your feelings are negative?

Your feelings may be uncomfortable but that doesn’t mean they’re negative.

They aren’t right or wrong.

They’re not good or bad.

They are just your feelings.

And they come with important messages.

They have gifts for you if you’re willing to see them all the way through.

Just to name a few …

Anger carries the gift of boundary defence.

Frustration brings you persistence which you need to reach your goals.

Envy motivates you to change.

Sadness marks an ending.  It’s ok to be sad when things end.

Don’t avoid these amazing feelings! They may be uncomfortable but they’re packed with positive messages that will get you positive results in your life if you don’t push them away.

Don’t chase them out, or pretend they don’t exist.

Don’t put a tub of ice cream on top of them either.

Welcome your feelings.

Learn to process them and express them in the right degree, to the right person, at the right time. ( By the way, sometimes that person is yourself.)

Let your feelings be part of your full experience.

They have gifts for you.

If you’re willing to feel them.

 

Veronica

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Meditate to Rehabilitate

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I consider meditation a form of rehabilitation for every aspect of human suffering – painful emotions, an overactive mind, seemingly dire circumstances, an ailing body or a dampened Spirit.  When I first began to meditate I would fall asleep, a lot!  My husband started to call it sleep-i-tation.  But sometimes that’s what the body needs:)  I was a mom of three small kids and I was tired. So it made sense that I would fall asleep if I took a moment of stillness. Other than giving me more sleep, meditation has transformed my life. When I decided I would “wake up” things really started to change.  Meditation has enhanced my way of existing so that now I can move through a busy or sometimes upsetting day with a heightened awareness, clarity, and access to calmness. Have you ever seen the movie “The Matrix?” In the movie the characters experience life in slow motion at times.  With a meditative daily devotion, instead of a FAST FORWARD  button I now have access to a pause button.  And I only need to meditate 20 minutes a day to find this pause.  Because of the pause, I’ve uncovered an ability to respond to the circumstances of the day without getting overwhelmed by them.  Well sometimes I get overwhelmed, but  I can manage the overwhelm more easily. Life is always going to throw drama and undesirable circumstances your way, that’s never going to change.  Daily stillness can help manage those dramatics and help you regain your balance in the midst of turmoil.

Meditation has a physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual component that transmutes into positive changes and awareness in all these areas. Emotionally I have become more aware of my ego defences and I can avoid the mini-dramas more easily. They still happen but I don’t engage as often or even feel the desire to do so.  It allows me to see my way clear when situations get complicated.   It affords me the ability to move out of  little irritabilities more quickly. When practising on a regular basis, meditation helps me become the observer so that I become more aware of my behaviour patterns and can often circumvent emotional triggers. It quiets my mind chatter and connects me to my creative Self. Ultimately, it helps me connect to my Spirit and reminds me I am not my roles, my past, or my fears.

“And the day came when the risk it took to remain tight in the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom. ” Anais Nin

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83 Problems are Normal, Change is to be Expected, Self Mastery is your Freedom

There’s a story about Buddha’s 84th Problem.  Have you heard it?

There’s an old farmer who went to the Buddha seeking help for his problems.  Either droughts or monsoons made his work difficult, he complained to Buddha.  What’s more, he grumbled, even though he loved his wife, there were certain things about her he wanted to change. Likewise his children – yes, he loved them, but they weren’t turning out quite the way he wanted.

” I’m sorry, but I can’t help you, ” Buddha told the farmer.

“What do you mean?” railed the farmer. ” You’re supposed to be the great One, the all wise and knowing Teacher!”

“All human beings have 83 problems,” the Buddha replied. “A few problems may go away, but soon enough others will arise.

“So, we’ll always have 83 problems?” the farmer asked indignantly, “Then what’s the good of all your teaching?”

The Buddha answered, “My teachings cannot help with your unique set of 83 problems because that’s  part of why you’e here – to experience them and grow, but perhaps my teaching can help you with your 84th problem?”

“What’s that?” asked the farmer.

“The 84th problem is that you don’t want to have any problems.”

You will always have problems.  Life is always changing.  But becoming the master of your Self and knowing that you are a spiritual being having a human experience will bring freedom to all your experiences.

Self mastered individuals learn to release their ego attachments. They learn to manage their minds, rehabilitate their emotions, and raise their personal vibration and so can you.

How happy you are is directly proportional to how tied you are to a certain outcome, situation, or the actions, comments, and thoughts of others.

How happy your are is directly proportional to how free you choose to be.

You can choose freedom. The choice comes in the thoughts you choose to think and the emotions you create based on your thoughts.

You can free yourself from perceived suffering …

One thought at a time.

One feeling at a time.

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