What Delights You? What Seeps into Your Consciousness even after you push it away?

I’m coming to the end of a very long and mostly uphill climb.

Writing a book.

It’s called Soul Steps:52 Ways to Reconnect with Spirit.

I think it was in 2009 that I first invited two friends and colleagues to join a writing project with me.

Although I’ve known this to be an important goal that required completion, it’s been very tedious at times.

A very long journey!

One requiring much patience, respect, open hearted communication, humility, tenacity, education, endurance, love, and ultimately so much growth along the way.

We are on the final stages of the layout now as the last edits sit with the publisher. (Pssst… secret … there are no FINAL edits! Writers are never satisfied with their work.)

There were moments when I didn’t know how it would be completed.

Times when I didn’t even want to look at it.

Even a few years where it lay dormant. Untouched.

But something in me knew this was a project that required my devotion.

Even during those dormant years it crept into my consciousness, calling me back to it’s purpose.

No matter how much patience it took, no matter how many rocks in the road, no matter what shade the nay sayers threw my way, I knew deep down it was part of my path.

Do you have something niggling at you like that?

Do you have a desire to complete a course of study, a secret project, a special hobby? To start a business, learn a skill, go on a journey?

Are you harbouring a message from your inner knowing that has a way of seeping into your consciousness?  A little candle burning in the window for when you come home?

Trust that your Spirit has your back. It knows where you’re headed. Whatever “It” is, it will keep coming back to you time and time again to get your attention. To nudge you forward.  Maybe it’s part of your purpose. Maybe it’s your joy. Maybe it’s both.

Here’s an excerpt from the workbook section in Soul Steps on listening to your Spirit:

“The noise associated with fear is what keeps most of us from moving forward. Where are you allowing this noise to shout over the calm messages from spirit?  Can you let go of this fearful voice in pursuit of growth and happiness? Don’t trample your desire to move out of darkness with fearful thoughts. Move lightly towards them. Realize that any thoughts that feed your fear are from the ego. The ego is hurried, loud, and dramatic. The Spirit is consistent, kind, and calm. Let your Spirit sit in the driver’s seat and watch for signs in repeated positive thoughts, in softer words, and in an impulse towards uplifting and inspired action. Only move towards what feels loving and delightful to you. Finish these sentences: If I wasn’t afraid I would … If I acted from love I would … The most delightful thing to do is …”

So what’s niggling at you?

What’s trying to get your attention?

I know that writing is something that delights me, despite its obstacles and blemishes.

If you could do anything (and you can), what’s the most delightful thing you would do?

With Love, Veronica

 

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Did you have a Happy Valentine’s Day?

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So Valentine’s Day was yesterday.

Saint Valentine married people who were being shunned in his society. Sweet!

Many of us still celebrate his devotion to love by trying to show our loved ones how much we appreciate them on Valentine’s Day.  Not always an easy thing, right? Sometimes we get it right and some times we get it so wrong!

Now our puppy Ori – she’s pretty ease to please.  Showing her love is not very complicated.  She loves belly rubs, to run along side us when we bike, her favourite toys – lamby, hedgehog, and squirrel.  She loves frozen pb treats and digging in the snow and laying in any puddles of water she can find.  She also loves getting her picture taken.

It’s so easy to show her love because her language of love is very easy to understand.  Just look how happy she is posing for this pic.

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People can be a little more challenging to love than our pets.  Not because they are less loveable but because we humans have different languages of love.  Gary Chapman in his book The 5 Love Languages can help you figure it out.

One thing I’ve learned as a Spiritual Teacher is that our basic need is to be validated. But the tricky part is figuring out how those in your life feel validation. In other words, what are their languages of love?

Dr. Chapman’s background is in the area of anthropology and linguistics. He studied many languages and how to communicate beyond language. He realized that to communicate effectively we must learn the language of those we communicate with. After 30 years of marriage counselling, Dr. Chapman realized the same was true for marriages.  He discovered that each person had their own way of feeling loved. “Your emotional love language and the language of your spouse may be as different as Chinese from English.”  It gets a lot easier to “LOVE” your partner when you understand their love language.

There are 5 languages of Love:

Words of Affirmation

Quality Time

Receiving Gifts

Acts of Service

Physical Touch

If your partner’s language is primarily words of affirmation then compliments, hearing “I love you”, or a good ole fashioned love letter on valentine’s may please her more than the elaborate night out you plan every year.

You can take a test to find out your language of love. Better still ask your partner to take the test too.  Usually you have a combination of the five languages of love. One or two will stand out.

Seldom do partners have the same love language and we often try to give our spouse the gifts we wish we were receiving ourselves.  But perhaps it’s time to learn your partner’s secondary and maybe even primary language.   Speaking his emotional language can help bring those loving feelings to the forefront of your day, everyday, helping you create a long-lasting and satisfying relationship.

Maybe you’ll look forward to the next Valentine’s Day because you’ll know just how to show your partner how much they are loved. Maybe you’ll look forward to tomorrow because you are better equipped to create those lovable moments.

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Happy Heart Day!

Veronica

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Time to Move the Junk

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Have you done your work?

Have you tossed your junk?

Have you cleaned your house?

Not just the old sports equipment in your basement that you never use.

Not just the pile of outdated manuals in your kitchen drawer.

But the other kind of junk…

The stuff that has a serious effect on your life and you might not even know it.

The useless thoughts you keep in your mind.

The harmful feelings you carry too long in your heart.

The detrimental habits that keep you from getting close to the people you love.

I love  January.

It’s  clean-out month.

It brings new energy.

New beginnings.

New momentum.

Do you feel the inner push?

If you do, use this momentum to clean up your inner life.

Learn to understand your emotions.

Clean up your negative thinking.

Develop practises that help you see when you’re doing things that harm your relationships.

Start doing the work that only you can do.

Start moving your junk out of your mind and out of your heart.

You’ll be so glad you did.

Life will get lighter.

Your problems will seem smaller.

Your relationships will be more loving.

Once you clean out your junk you’ll have more room for the things you really love -both inside and out.

~ Veronica

 

 

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The Gifts of the Old Year and the Hope for the New

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I Love a New Year. It’s a new start, a time for renewal, and a time for new hopes and dreams.

But it’s also a time to reflect on the happenings in the year gone by.

Both good and bad or should I say “perceived good and bad.”

Let me just say that 2016 has been a tough year in many many ways, but it also has had many gifts too.

I like to ask myself these questions so that I don’t miss out on some of the hard earned gifts of the year gone by:

  1. What have I learned? What can I take away from 2016?  
  2. What new desires have been born in me because of my experiences?  
  3. What can I look forward to in the New Year? Where can I focus my hopeful energy?

1. What I learned in 2016

–I’ve learned that those with the most difficult roads are often the ones who complain the least and appreciate the most.

–I’ve learned more deeply that being a mother is my best teacher for the evolution of the soul. It pushes me to my limits of practicing  deep compassion, reaching for new wisdom, and practising detachment in a healthy way.

–I learned that I’m brave and that I can do scary things and come out better for it on the other side!

Wow- those are some pretty great gifts that 2016 has brought me!

2. What new desires have been born because of my experiences?

–I want gentleness and to embody it in my life. I want gentleness in my thoughts, words, and actions. Simple. I want to live a gentle life and have more gentle relationships.

–I want to be an even better mother and show my children that they design their own lives. Yes, things come your way that are often difficult to  deal with, but ultimately you have the freedom to choose your path in each and every moment. I want to practice choosing an even higher vibration, and an even higher energy. That’s the essence of consciousness. Knowing the choice is there to shift or not.

–I want to push my limits even further to do other things that I’ve always wanted to do.  Scary or not. I know I can do hard things:)

3. Now what can I look forward to in 2017?

On December 10th, 2016 I signed a book contract with my two lovely co-authors Florence Strang and Natalie Finlay.  So 2016 also brought the wonderful gift of a book contract for a manuscript that’s been in the making a very long time. It’s been hard work, it brought a lot of personal growth, and a lot of healing in the process.

It’s called Soul Steps: 52 Ways to Reconnect with Spirit.

I’m so grateful and I can’t wait to share it with you!

I’ll be sharing lots of excerpts from the book over the next few months while the publishing process takes place so if you want to get them sign up here:

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So now I encourage you to ask yourself the same questions.

Don’t let the gifts of 2016 slip from your awareness without acknowledgement.

Take a moment to reflect on these questions:

What have you learned? What can you take away from 2016?

What new desires have been born in you because of your experiences?

What can you look forward to? What are your hopes and dreams for the new year?

Did you take aware some great awarenesses from 2016 -leave a comment and tell us what you learned!

Until Next Time, Veronica

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To Be Grateful OR Not To Be Grateful

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A growing body of research continues to support that an attitude of gratitude has tons of benefits – it improves your relationships and helps you feel like you’re bonding better with others. It improves your emotional well being because you release those good feeling hormones in the brain when you think thoughts that feel good. It also improves your health because it has been shown to calm anxiety, help you sleep better, and decrease feelings of depression.

But gratitude is not just about keeping a journal or saying thank you. In order for gratitude to truly transform your life it’s important to:

  • Feel the gratitude in your body because it’s a practise, it involves both a mental and emotional shift.
  • Lessen the activities that are the opposite of gratitude. The practise of gratitude is not just shifting into the feeling of appreciation but also shifting out of unappreciative habits that keep you in low energy.  Habits like:
    • complaining
    • blaming
    • criticizing
    • having an irritable disposition
    • raging at other drivers
    • rushing around with your kids

If you want the benefits of gratitude you also need to look at how you’re blocking gratitude in your life.  How can you STOP the block of gratitude? It’s an important part of creating the life you want.

To truly create the positive flow of energy that gratitude brings, you may want to make this shift – consciously choose gratitude but also be consciously aware of when you’re choosing something else.

In gratitude:)

Veronica 

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Not Right or Wrong. Not Good or Bad.

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Are you afraid to change because you don’t like to feel uncomfortable when you try something different?

Do you shy away from that difficult conversation because you feel uneasy?

Or do you avoid moving to higher ground because you think your feelings are negative?

Your feelings may be uncomfortable but that doesn’t mean they’re negative.

They aren’t right or wrong.

They’re not good or bad.

They are just your feelings.

And they come with important messages.

They have gifts for you if you’re willing to see them all the way through.

Just to name a few …

Anger carries the gift of boundary defence.

Frustration brings you persistence which you need to reach your goals.

Envy motivates you to change.

Sadness marks an ending.  It’s ok to be sad when things end.

Don’t avoid these amazing feelings! They may be uncomfortable but they’re packed with positive messages that will get you positive results in your life if you don’t push them away.

Don’t chase them out, or pretend they don’t exist.

Don’t put a tub of ice cream on top of them either.

Welcome your feelings.

Learn to process them and express them in the right degree, to the right person, at the right time. ( By the way, sometimes that person is yourself.)

Let your feelings be part of your full experience.

They have gifts for you.

If you’re willing to feel them.

 

Veronica

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E-Motion: Energy In Motion

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The Sanskrit word Prana means “life force” energy that moves through the body..

Emotions are part of this energy and are meant to flow.

Anger for example is a healthy emotion and when you allow anger to flow naturally through the body you receive the gifts that accompany it – boundary protection and fairness.

You may have learned from your role models or through experience that emotions like anger or shame are not to be expressed but rather denied, repressed, or diminished in some way. If due process is denied, emotional energy will linger in the body.  Perhaps showing up in a tense shoulder or aching joints, depending on where you hold your stress. Contracting muscles over and over in the body is one way of attempting to restrict the flow of uncomfortable emotions. Using the mind to repress feelings is another way.  If you deny feelings of anger you may  turn to blaming yourself or others in order to try and process your feelings through your mind instead of feeling them in the body.  This of course doesn’t work.  You can’t “think” away your feelings – you have to feel them!  Blaming is just another way of keeping anger at bay.

Learning to let emotions flow naturally will allow you to create a healthier body, peaceful mind, and promote spiritual growth.  Take a step towards soothing your Soul by learning to process your emotions in a healthy way:

Soul Step : Take stock of slow moving emotional energy or frozen emotions in your body.  Let the negative stories you hold on to be a pointer to potentially stagnant energy. Do you have stories you revisit over and over and ultimately, emotions you have yet to process? Begin to move the energy by sharing, not the story, but how you feel or felt.  You can also share by writing in a journal. However be aware there is power in having a witness to your pain and sharing it with another Soul.  The power of that exchange transmutes to emotional freedom within your energy.

Soul Message:  What were the three top feelings that came up for you?  What message did you receive as you allowed these feelings to emerge?  What did they teach you?

Soul Focus: Emotional honesty doesn’t come easily but the effort will lend authenticity to your relationships and promote wisdom in the emotional realm.  When you move your feelings through you instead of freezing them you began to feel more balanced on a daily basis and you are able to create emotional intimacy more easily in your relationships.  You also free your energy to be used in other ways.  What areas of you life are calling you to be more emotionally honest? Is it your marriage? Relationships at work? Finances or spending habits? The body’s wisdom is vast. Trust it and notice what you feel and where you feel it in the body. That’s enough to begin the healthy emotional flow of energy.

(Excerpt from Soul Steps: 52 Ways to Reconnect with Spirit – Balboa Press – Winter 2015)

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