Time to Move the Junk

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Have you done your work?

Have you tossed your junk?

Have you cleaned your house?

Not just the old sports equipment in your basement that you never use.

Not just the pile of outdated manuals in your kitchen drawer.

But the other kind of junk…

The stuff that has a serious effect on your life and you might not even know it.

The useless thoughts you keep in your mind.

The harmful feelings you carry too long in your heart.

The detrimental habits that keep you from getting close to the people you love.

I love  January.

It’s  clean-out month.

It brings new energy.

New beginnings.

New momentum.

Do you feel the inner push?

If you do, use this momentum to clean up your inner life.

Learn to understand your emotions.

Clean up your negative thinking.

Develop practises that help you see when you’re doing things that harm your relationships.

Start doing the work that only you can do.

Start moving your junk out of your mind and out of your heart.

You’ll be so glad you did.

Life will get lighter.

Your problems will seem smaller.

Your relationships will be more loving.

Once you clean out your junk you’ll have more room for the things you really love -both inside and out.

~ Veronica

 

 

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Gather Your Scattered Energy

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When you let your ego mind lead, your energy will scatter to all the little dramas in your life.

Think of it as bleeding energy to every negative thought you have, every busy moment, every physical discomfort, every argument with others.

Remember you are not your thoughts and your thoughts don’t rule you unless you let them.

The reality is that most of us let our thoughts run the show.

But we are not our minds.  We are much much bigger than our mind energy.

This energy is for our use.  We are not meant to be lead around by it.

Learn to be aware of where your energy goes and how it’s used.

Take the time to gather your inner power, pull it back into your heart space.

“Meditation is the key to your spiritual practice. If you have the right key in your hand, no matter how tightly the lock is closed, when you take the key and turn it the lock falls open, if you use your mediation key you’ll open your intuitive heart to your heart’s desires.”  AJAHN CHAH

Sit in stillness.

Breathe

Walk in nature.

Breathe

Listen to uplifting music.

Breathe

Gather your energy.

Pull it in.

It’s yours to use as you please.

It’s yours to care for as well.

Learn to open your intuitive heart to your heart’s desires.

Begin by gathering your energy.

and breathe:)

Veronica

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Meditate to Rehabilitate

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I consider meditation a form of rehabilitation for every aspect of human suffering – painful emotions, an overactive mind, seemingly dire circumstances, an ailing body or a dampened Spirit.  When I first began to meditate I would fall asleep, a lot!  My husband started to call it sleep-i-tation.  But sometimes that’s what the body needs:)  I was a mom of three small kids and I was tired. So it made sense that I would fall asleep if I took a moment of stillness. Other than giving me more sleep, meditation has transformed my life. When I decided I would “wake up” things really started to change.  Meditation has enhanced my way of existing so that now I can move through a busy or sometimes upsetting day with a heightened awareness, clarity, and access to calmness. Have you ever seen the movie “The Matrix?” In the movie the characters experience life in slow motion at times.  With a meditative daily devotion, instead of a FAST FORWARD  button I now have access to a pause button.  And I only need to meditate 20 minutes a day to find this pause.  Because of the pause, I’ve uncovered an ability to respond to the circumstances of the day without getting overwhelmed by them.  Well sometimes I get overwhelmed, but  I can manage the overwhelm more easily. Life is always going to throw drama and undesirable circumstances your way, that’s never going to change.  Daily stillness can help manage those dramatics and help you regain your balance in the midst of turmoil.

Meditation has a physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual component that transmutes into positive changes and awareness in all these areas. Emotionally I have become more aware of my ego defences and I can avoid the mini-dramas more easily. They still happen but I don’t engage as often or even feel the desire to do so.  It allows me to see my way clear when situations get complicated.   It affords me the ability to move out of  little irritabilities more quickly. When practising on a regular basis, meditation helps me become the observer so that I become more aware of my behaviour patterns and can often circumvent emotional triggers. It quiets my mind chatter and connects me to my creative Self. Ultimately, it helps me connect to my Spirit and reminds me I am not my roles, my past, or my fears.

“And the day came when the risk it took to remain tight in the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom. ” Anais Nin

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83 Problems are Normal, Change is to be Expected, Self Mastery is your Freedom

There’s a story about Buddha’s 84th Problem.  Have you heard it?

There’s an old farmer who went to the Buddha seeking help for his problems.  Either droughts or monsoons made his work difficult, he complained to Buddha.  What’s more, he grumbled, even though he loved his wife, there were certain things about her he wanted to change. Likewise his children – yes, he loved them, but they weren’t turning out quite the way he wanted.

” I’m sorry, but I can’t help you, ” Buddha told the farmer.

“What do you mean?” railed the farmer. ” You’re supposed to be the great One, the all wise and knowing Teacher!”

“All human beings have 83 problems,” the Buddha replied. “A few problems may go away, but soon enough others will arise.

“So, we’ll always have 83 problems?” the farmer asked indignantly, “Then what’s the good of all your teaching?”

The Buddha answered, “My teachings cannot help with your unique set of 83 problems because that’s  part of why you’e here – to experience them and grow, but perhaps my teaching can help you with your 84th problem?”

“What’s that?” asked the farmer.

“The 84th problem is that you don’t want to have any problems.”

You will always have problems.  Life is always changing.  But becoming the master of your Self and knowing that you are a spiritual being having a human experience will bring freedom to all your experiences.

Self mastered individuals learn to release their ego attachments. They learn to manage their minds, rehabilitate their emotions, and raise their personal vibration and so can you.

How happy you are is directly proportional to how tied you are to a certain outcome, situation, or the actions, comments, and thoughts of others.

How happy your are is directly proportional to how free you choose to be.

You can choose freedom. The choice comes in the thoughts you choose to think and the emotions you create based on your thoughts.

You can free yourself from perceived suffering …

One thought at a time.

One feeling at a time.

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Acknowledging the Gap

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I recently watched the movie “Take this Waltz” by Sarah Polley.    Sarah Silverman plays the sister in law (Geraldine) to Michelle Willams  (Margot).

I loved, loved, loved the above scene. Geraldine is struggling with alcoholism and after celebrating her sobriety months before she loses her  status with a hard fall to the reality of the challenge.  She left her little one at home, the police are called, and she arrives home with many witnesses to her drunk driving.  She uses alcohol to fill “The Gap.”

This scene captures the essence of “The Gap.” As human beings, spiritual beings living a human existence, we feel this gap mostly on a daily basis.  It’s that  hole or ache that exists and is rarely acknowledged – the sour feeling after someone disagrees with your opinion at work, the loneliness of a young mother as she struggles with the challenges of a new baby, or the lack lustre days of marriage that inevitably are part of any long term relationship.

“The Gap” is that space that is un-fillable with activity, food, alcohol, or any of the “over” doing we turn to when we feel the ache.

Margot feels the ache in her everyday marriage and looks to find adventure with a man she met on a plane in hopes of filling the gap.

Geraldine’s take is that Margot gave up a really good marriage to a really good man in search of something that we all experience.

I love Geraldine’s acknowledgement of the gap.

What is the Gap?

In the Gap

It’s the distance between our true whole self and the things that separate us from our heart – blame, shame, guilt, judgement, depression, anxiety, procrastination etc.

When you acknowledge it, you lessen the lure to fill it with something outside yourself.

Geraldine chooses alcohol.  Aware it’s only a temporary plug all the same.

Margot chooses another man. Only soon after, she begins to feel it return.

How can you fill the gap?

Not with any of things we typically use. Alcohol, sugar, drama, working too much, being too busy, etc.

You fill the gap by first acknowledging it exists.

Then you follow it with validation and self love.

Start by asking yourself what behaviours or patterns do you participate in excessively?

Acknowledge the Gap.

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Self-Mastery : First Party Communication

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A simple Self-Mastery Technique that makes a big impact is first party communication.

It means to use “I” or “Me” or “I feel that.. ” or ” I believe …”

Using “YOU” externalizes whatever subject you’re talking about.
It makes it about other people instead of yourself.

It means that you understand a subject intellectually but haven’t internalized it.  You haven’t changed who you are because of it!

Using “I” when you’re learning a new self mastery skill like spiritual communication, self-parenting, or the language of feelings will internalize the lesson more quickly.  As well using first party in your daily conversations will do the same.  It enables you to move from intellectualizing to emotionalizing and from externalizing to internalizing.

Saying “YOU” is a common subtle Ego defence that keeps your growth at bay and your lessons outside your consciousness.

If you want to create permanent change, taking responsibility with First Party Communication is an excellent place to begin.

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Self Mastery

Self Mastery is practicing awareness in all areas of the Self – emotional, psychological, physical, and spiritual.

Emotional maturity is taking care of your own emotional needs so you don’t expect others to do it for you.

Managing your mind involves using your thoughts to create positive results in your life and cleaning up your  thinking and  beliefs that continue to create negative outcomes for you.

Self care and listening to your body’s wisdom is essential to creating a healthy relationship with yourself.  Giving yourself permission to do this is one of the first steps to self mastery.

And connection to Spirit is about getting quiet, making space for solitude, and learning to let your Spirit  lead you through your day instead of allowing your ego-mind to use defensiveness and exclusion to keep you from the life and love you want.

All of these components lead to a more peaceful life.

There are small easy Self-Mastery tools that help you create homeostasis.

It takes effort but it’s doable!  And you don’t need to be 100% self mastered to create a more peaceful life.

51% practice is enough to tip the scales in your direction.

Just take one small step in any area to start living a more conscious life.  As always it begins with you.

By: Veronica 

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