IS IT TRUE?

 

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Well, I’ve been thinking of the essence of this work.

Trying to capture what clients need when we’re together.

It’s almost always to reveal a particularly damaging negative thought.

AND… when we get down to it —

It’s never True.

Ever!

Are you in pain right now?

Are you suffering because of your thoughts about a person, a circumstance, or yourself?

Something you THINK someone has done to you?

Something you THINK you have done to someone else?

Or something you think you Are or Are Not?

Let’s take a look.

I am poor! (A statement – a thought -a belief – and an untrue one at that.)

Turn it into a question.

Am I really poor?

As Byron Katie would say, “Is it absolutely true?”

Ask yourself “Is it absolutely true that I am really poor?”

Now. Look at the facts.

Do you absolutely have nothing?  Are you poor in money? In Spirit?  There are many ways to be poor – socially, emotionally, poor in health, poorly educated, poor in family connections, etc.

Do you have absolutely no access to prosperity?   I doubt it very much.  I’m pretty sure you can find some way you are Not poor.

So now you see that you were telling your self a lie.

Now you see you have some things.  Yes?

You are prosperous in some ways? Yes?

Now this new thought (I have some things)  will be you’re jumping off point to a better life.

Why?  Because  your thoughts create how you feel and how you feel influences how you act and how you act causes the outcomes in your life.

When you look at the ways you are not poor then you will also see that you are in fact, not poor! And you’ve been telling yourself a lie that is actually harming you and your access to more prosperity.

It harms you because it affects other thoughts about having richness in your life AND those thoughts attract more like thoughts that harm you and you create the “poor me” syndrome. But you can shift out of that.

The point is that if you want to feel better you have to challenge your negative thinking, not only because it’s not true, but because it’s harming you.

Lets look at another one:

“I am responsible for things that happen to others?”

Turn it around.  Ask a question?

Am I responsible for things that happen to others?

Find the facts. There is actually very little that we can ‘make happen’ in other people’s lives.

Look  instead, for reasons that people are responsible for themselves.

Don’t try and steal their power.

Stop beating yourself up for what has happened to other people.

It really doesn’t help them or you.

The only thing you are truly responsible for is You.

Choose your thoughts deliberately.

Challenge the ones that harm you.

~Veronica

veronicaconnors.com

Excerpts from “Soul Steps: 52 Ways to Reconnect with Spirit” May 2017 DRC Publishing

veronica.connors@nf.sympatico.ca

 

 

The “Bad” Experiences are Just as Valuable as the “Good” Experiences.

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Do you label your experiences as Good or Bad?

Your feelings as Right or Wrong?

Both are equally valuable.

Both lead you to turn in the direction of what you want and where you want to go.

Both help refine your choices.

Don’t discount those rocky roads.

Don’t abandon something because it’s “just too tough” or “not what you expected.”

The rewards, the learning, and the sense of accomplishment is on the other side of discomfort.

Rocky roads are bumpy, tedious, and sometimes super slow!

Instead of giving up or thinking “this is so hard it just can’t be right.”

Realign your thoughts.

Know that You CAN Do Hard Things.

Tell yourself.

“I CAN Do Hard Things.”

Because the truth is … you Can!

On the other side of discomfort is more confidence and a knowingness that you CAN do what needs to be done when getting where you want to go.

Don’t let discomfort turn you away from an exceptional learning experience or from exceptional outcomes.

Realign your thoughts.

Keep moving towards what you want.

Know you have the ability to get through tough situations.

Veronica

veronicaconnors.com

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Weight Loss is an Emotional Journey

For most people weight loss isn’t just about exercise and eating a healthy diet. It’s about figuring out why you eat so you can stop.

The “why” is the emotional work and it’s important. Actually, it’s not only important it’s imperative! Getting to know your emotional state is about becoming a real grown up. When you choose grown up emotional responses you learn to process your emotions in healthy ways. You eventually no longer allow childish tantrums to drive harmful behaviours.

You choose to feel your emotions instead of feeding them!
You choose exercise instead of sitting on the couch.
You choose a fresh green smoothie instead of a cola.
You choose to love yourself like you’ve never committed to doing before.

Becoming an emotional adult means:
to take responsibility for your choices
to acknowledge that success requires effort and patience
to believe in yourself
to believe in your desires

When you become emotionally mature the only approval you need is your own.

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