Well, I’ve been thinking of the essence of this work.
Trying to capture what clients need when we’re together.
It’s almost always to reveal a particularly damaging negative thought.
AND… when we get down to it —
It’s never True.
Are you in pain right now?
Are you suffering because of your thoughts about a person, a circumstance, or yourself?
Something you THINK someone has done to you?
Something you THINK you have done to someone else?
Or something you think you Are or Are Not?
Let’s take a look.
I am poor! (A statement – a thought -a belief – and an untrue one at that.)
Turn it into a question.
Am I really poor?
As Byron Katie would say, “Is it absolutely true?”
Ask yourself “Is it absolutely true that I am really poor?”
Now. Look at the facts.
Do you absolutely have nothing? Are you poor in money? In Spirit? There are many ways to be poor – socially, emotionally, poor in health, poorly educated, poor in family connections, etc.
Do you have absolutely no access to prosperity? I doubt it very much. I’m pretty sure you can find some way you are Not poor.
So now you see that you were telling your self a lie.
Now you see you have some things. Yes?
You are prosperous in some ways? Yes?
Now this new thought (I have some things) will be you’re jumping off point to a better life.
Why? Because your thoughts create how you feel and how you feel influences how you act and how you act causes the outcomes in your life.
When you look at the ways you are not poor then you will also see that you are in fact, not poor! And you’ve been telling yourself a lie that is actually harming you and your access to more prosperity.
It harms you because it affects other thoughts about having richness in your life AND those thoughts attract more like thoughts that harm you and you create the “poor me” syndrome. But you can shift out of that.
The point is that if you want to feel better you have to challenge your negative thinking, not only because it’s not true, but because it’s harming you.
Lets look at another one:
“I am responsible for things that happen to others?”
Turn it around. Ask a question?
Am I responsible for things that happen to others?
Find the facts. There is actually very little that we can ‘make happen’ in other people’s lives.
Look instead, for reasons that people are responsible for themselves.
Don’t try and steal their power.
Stop beating yourself up for what has happened to other people.
It really doesn’t help them or you.
The only thing you are truly responsible for is You.
Choose your thoughts deliberately.
Challenge the ones that harm you.