Wouldn’t It Be Nice If …

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The Beach Boy’s sang the words “Wouldn’t It Be Nice If … we were older and didn’t have to wait so long.”  Or “wouldn’t it be nice if we could live in the kind of world where we belong.”

They were on to something beautiful.

They knew how to dream and use their imagination to see their lives a little nicer.

Spiritual Teachers Abraham -Hicks use the phrase “Wouldn’t it be nice if … ” to help others reach for a better feeling place and to create something different in their lives.

I LOVE this technique for the ease of shifting the mind.

A better feeling place is where your power resides.

Have you ever gotten anywhere from feeling hopeless?

Have you ever produced what you wanted when you felt this way?

Not likely.

So instead of focusing on the hopelessness of what’s in front of you.

Dream up something better.

Every thing you see that’s good in this world was first an idea before it came into fruition.

When you focus on your ideas often enough that they start to FEEL real , then you are getting close to creating the essence of that idea.

So start here.

Wouldn’t it be nice if …

  • I ate healthier food
  • My body was stronger
  • My health was better than yesterday.
  • I could pay just one bill.
  • I could pay all my bills.
  • I had money in the bank.
  • I could share wealth with others.
  • I felt like I belonged
  • I did what was right for me.
  • My relationships were more loving.
  • I didn’t hold on to that grudge.
  • I thought happier thoughts.
  • I laughed more.
  • I added to the peace of the world.
  • My family played more games.
  • I could travel with family and friends.
  • I found the perfect job for me.
  • We all loved each other more.

Now make up your own.

Wouldn’t it be nice if …

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Veronica Connors, B.Ed., M.Ed., CSLC

Spiritual Life Coach

Author, Soul Steps: 52 Ways to Reconnect with Spirit 

Self Mastery Teacher

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IS IT TRUE?

 

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Well, I’ve been thinking of the essence of this work.

Trying to capture what clients need when we’re together.

It’s almost always to reveal a particularly damaging negative thought.

AND… when we get down to it —

It’s never True.

Ever!

Are you in pain right now?

Are you suffering because of your thoughts about a person, a circumstance, or yourself?

Something you THINK someone has done to you?

Something you THINK you have done to someone else?

Or something you think you Are or Are Not?

Let’s take a look.

I am poor! (A statement – a thought -a belief – and an untrue one at that.)

Turn it into a question.

Am I really poor?

As Byron Katie would say, “Is it absolutely true?”

Ask yourself “Is it absolutely true that I am really poor?”

Now. Look at the facts.

Do you absolutely have nothing?  Are you poor in money? In Spirit?  There are many ways to be poor – socially, emotionally, poor in health, poorly educated, poor in family connections, etc.

Do you have absolutely no access to prosperity?   I doubt it very much.  I’m pretty sure you can find some way you are Not poor.

So now you see that you were telling your self a lie.

Now you see you have some things.  Yes?

You are prosperous in some ways? Yes?

Now this new thought (I have some things)  will be you’re jumping off point to a better life.

Why?  Because  your thoughts create how you feel and how you feel influences how you act and how you act causes the outcomes in your life.

When you look at the ways you are not poor then you will also see that you are in fact, not poor! And you’ve been telling yourself a lie that is actually harming you and your access to more prosperity.

It harms you because it affects other thoughts about having richness in your life AND those thoughts attract more like thoughts that harm you and you create the “poor me” syndrome. But you can shift out of that.

The point is that if you want to feel better you have to challenge your negative thinking, not only because it’s not true, but because it’s harming you.

Lets look at another one:

“I am responsible for things that happen to others?”

Turn it around.  Ask a question?

Am I responsible for things that happen to others?

Find the facts. There is actually very little that we can ‘make happen’ in other people’s lives.

Look  instead, for reasons that people are responsible for themselves.

Don’t try and steal their power.

Stop beating yourself up for what has happened to other people.

It really doesn’t help them or you.

The only thing you are truly responsible for is You.

Choose your thoughts deliberately.

Challenge the ones that harm you.

~Veronica

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Excerpts from “Soul Steps: 52 Ways to Reconnect with Spirit” May 2017 DRC Publishing

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The “Bad” Experiences are Just as Valuable as the “Good” Experiences.

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Do you label your experiences as Good or Bad?

Your feelings as Right or Wrong?

Both are equally valuable.

Both lead you to turn in the direction of what you want and where you want to go.

Both help refine your choices.

Don’t discount those rocky roads.

Don’t abandon something because it’s “just too tough” or “not what you expected.”

The rewards, the learning, and the sense of accomplishment is on the other side of discomfort.

Rocky roads are bumpy, tedious, and sometimes super slow!

Instead of giving up or thinking “this is so hard it just can’t be right.”

Realign your thoughts.

Know that You CAN Do Hard Things.

Tell yourself.

“I CAN Do Hard Things.”

Because the truth is … you Can!

On the other side of discomfort is more confidence and a knowingness that you CAN do what needs to be done when getting where you want to go.

Don’t let discomfort turn you away from an exceptional learning experience or from exceptional outcomes.

Realign your thoughts.

Keep moving towards what you want.

Know you have the ability to get through tough situations.

Veronica

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To Be Grateful OR Not To Be Grateful

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A growing body of research continues to support that an attitude of gratitude has tons of benefits – it improves your relationships and helps you feel like you’re bonding better with others. It improves your emotional well being because you release those good feeling hormones in the brain when you think thoughts that feel good. It also improves your health because it has been shown to calm anxiety, help you sleep better, and decrease feelings of depression.

But gratitude is not just about keeping a journal or saying thank you. In order for gratitude to truly transform your life it’s important to:

  • Feel the gratitude in your body because it’s a practise, it involves both a mental and emotional shift.
  • Lessen the activities that are the opposite of gratitude. The practise of gratitude is not just shifting into the feeling of appreciation but also shifting out of unappreciative habits that keep you in low energy.  Habits like:
    • complaining
    • blaming
    • criticizing
    • having an irritable disposition
    • raging at other drivers
    • rushing around with your kids

If you want the benefits of gratitude you also need to look at how you’re blocking gratitude in your life.  How can you STOP the block of gratitude? It’s an important part of creating the life you want.

To truly create the positive flow of energy that gratitude brings, you may want to make this shift – consciously choose gratitude but also be consciously aware of when you’re choosing something else.

In gratitude:)

Veronica 

Spiritual Life Coach

Author

Self Mastery Teacher

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Don’t Wait For Monday

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If you’ve ever started a diet or made a new commitment to do just about anything, you’re likely quite familiar with choosing the BIG day to begin.

Maybe some of these sound familiar:

  • It’s my New Years Resolution. I’ll start on January 1st.
  • I’ll wait until after the weekend.
  • It’s a 12 week program so after my vacation is a better starting time.
  • I’ll go back to school when I earn enough money.
  • I’ll start once I get ….
  • Now just isn’t the best time for me.

Excuses.

Little lies that chip away at the life you really want for yourself.

They give you permission to continue poor Self Care.

They keep you stuck in what you think is a safe place.

Today is the only important day to take care of yourself and that includes moving forward with your desires.

Don’t make a decision in November to take care of yourself in January.

Take care of yourself today.

Don’t wait for Monday

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LOOK FOR A WAY TO SOAR!

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The way you feel is your vibration.

If you want to attract something good, then you have to reach a good-feeling place.

If you want to attract something great, then you have to reach a great feeling place.

Many just look at what’s in front of them-producing a “feeling” vibration equivalent to what already exists:

daily sadness or irritability
financial debt
a poor marriage
an overweight body
recurring illness

If you want to create something different start by creating better feelings.

When you feel better your personal energetic vibration is higher and you attract other higher energy thoughts, feelings, and circumstances to you.

When you feel better you don’t need to compensate for feeling bad by over-spending, eating high caloric foods, arguing with your spouse,creating inflammation in the body because of stress etc.

Do something today that will raise your vibration:

watch funny videos on u-tube
play uplifting music
read inspirational books
dance
choose a better feeling thought
help someone out
clean out your junk draw

Consciously look for ways to let your energy Soar!
Your vibration will be uplifted.
Your life will be rewarded.

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KEEP YOUR FIRST STEP CLOSE AND YOUR NEXT STEP CLOSER

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Go to your closet and pick an outfit that you feel great in. Can’t find one? Pick the everyday outfit you feel best in.

Comb your closet for a few others like this that you can mix and match and let that be your wardrobe. Wear only what you feel good in! Feeling good is the optimal phrase here.

Some people suggest you pick your “ultimate goal” outfit. I’m suggesting that along with your current cloths ( that you feel good in) you also pick a goal outfit for motivation but don’t make it your “ultimate” goal make it your “next” goal. Choose something that’s close to where you are right now instead of 3 sizes smaller.

Your “next” goal outfit may be something that’s a little too tight but maybe a 1/2 size or a size too small.

Make it achievable. Make it believable.

You need to believe you can reach your goal. You need to feel it in order to make it happen.

Once you’ve made this little leap and you’re in the “next” goal outfit, pick another three at this new level and wear them while you make your next shift in weight loss.

You get the idea. From here, from this new plateau things look brighter. From here pick your new goal outfit all over again. Again, it should be close to where you are now and not a distant 4 sizes away. You want to move into the energy with ease.

With these small steps you’ll build momentum to reach your ultimate goals in size, weight, and health.

You’re more likely to stay the course when a few more steps will get you to a new level instead of a few thousand steps.

Reach for the stars! But try star hopping.
Do it in a way that’s attainable.
Do it in a way that feels easy.
Do it in a way that feels good.

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Love Your Body … Love Your Life : Momentum

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WHICH WAY IS YOUR MOMENTUM GOING?

Newton’s Law of Motion – An object in motion stays in motion.

​Until… it’s acted upon by an external source.

The motion makes it easier to stay in motion because of momentum.
Which way is your momentum going or do you even have momentum?
Are you moving towards your goals or in the opposite direction?

Example: You’ve been eating well and are being fairly conscious of what you consume. Then you go on vacation and you give yourself permission to eat what you want. When you get home you continue to eat the same way you ate on vacation but you’ve picked up momentum in this area and are getting more and more habitual with your practice of eating what you want.

So now, you have a choice. Do you continue to let the momentum carry you in the direction of unconscious eating or do you STOP, and choose differently. In order to do this you have to make a conscious choice to be the force that acts upon the object in motion. In this case the object is YOU eating willy nilly.

Once you make the decision to change your course of action then your momentum will be lost. In this case it’s a good thing, because you want to stop that fast moving train and turn it around.

Now you have the opportunity to build momentum in a new direction. Do it by moving one foot in front of the other. Take small actionable steps towards eating healthier and more consciously:

-Drink one more glass of water a day
-eat 2 more fruits and vegetables a day
-decide to have only one treat every day instead of three

After a few days you’ll begin to build momentum in the direction of eating healthy again and more quickly regain focus on your goals.

Getting momentum on your side will effect the gap between you and what you want, just be aware of your direction.

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Being Kind Doesn’t Mean Coddling

You want to reach a goal – write a book, run a marathon, or lose 20 pounds.

You’ve learned to be kind and gentle with your self as you move through any process.

But kind doesn’t mean coddling.

Just because you don’t feel like doing something doesn’t mean it must be wrong for you or is unkind.

Going too easy on yourself is another way of lying, another path to self-deception.

Reaching your goals requires you to follow through.

Don’t coddle yourself out of the life you want.

Be willing to do what’s needed to realize your vision.

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Learning to Love Yourself

The chemistry of loving yourself is an endless unfolding.

Knowing you need to do it and actually doing it requires different energy.

To understand the power, you have to experience it.

Begin with simple gratitude.

If you practise finding even one pleasing thing to say about yourself every day,  it won’t take long before it becomes your natural state.

It’s that simple.

It requires effort, but not much:

Consistency
A shift in perspective
Gratitude

This alone will unlock a magic that leads to a new way of existing in the world.

Perhaps an affinity and affection you have yet to experience.

Then, of course, you know the next step.

Once you establish a kind, gentle, and loving way of existing you can then give it away to others.

You can’t give away what you don’t have.

It’s up to you to create it within yourself first.

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Change Your life One Thought at a Time

Find Relief, One Feeling at a Time

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