I recently had a great conversation with a group of women about Self Love.
We talked about a lot of things it is and isn’t.
It’s Not about pie in the sky, Pollyanna thinking, or spouting endless affirmations that mean nothing to you. It’s Not about thinking you can’t love others as you grow your own self love. It’s Not about selfishness either. Well, it kinda IS about a good kind of selfishness.
It’s more about filling yourself up in ways that work for you no matter what others think. Protecting your emotional or physical boundaries even whet it’s uncomfortable. Learning to move into or out of relationships or situations that don’t line up with who you are on the inside, despite the fear of change. Meeting your own emotional needs instead of asking others to do it for you.
It’s about speaking and acting from a place of peace and understanding. It’s knowing deeply that a bit of you resides in everyone and everything on this planet. It’s the wise teaching to do unto others as you would have done unto you. Because really self love is simply about loving others too as you can’t treat others poorly and love yourself at the same time. Not possible.
There’s more. It’s also about Loving what is in the moment because right now it can’t be anything other than it is. Loving others in the moment because right now they can’t be anything other than what they are . Loving yourself despite your flaws and mistakes because right now you can be no different in this moment.
Essentially, self love is loving yourself into the fullest, truest version of who you are and it takes acceptance, awareness, and inner excavation. It requires patience, insight, and stillness. It means asking “What’s the most loving thing I can say or not say, do or not do, think or not think.” When you ask the questions the answers will come.
This love opens potential. It creates space. It relaxes resistance. It gives you room to breathe.
It helps you notice when you’re off tract and gives you space to recalibrate for your next step. Sometimes that next step is to do nothing. Sometimes, it’s more inner excavation until you reach some clarity.
If you’re wondering what to do in a situation ask yourself this question:
If I loved myself I would …
The most loving thing to do is…
Keep coming up with answers until you reach an aha moment.
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