It’s easy to identify strongly with your body because it’s tangible and visible.
Perhaps it’s equally easy to identify with your thoughts or emotions because they’re readily available and sometimes all consuming.
It’s not so easy to remember who you really are, especially in chaos.
You’re not your body, mind, or emotions.
You are the One watching your thoughts and feeling your emotions.
Your body is your vehicle for participation.
In moments of isolation, confusion, or havoc re-connect with the watcher.
This is the part of you that holds the big picture.
Get some space between you and what is troubling. In the space you can refocus.
No need to be overly attached to any physical condition, mental trappings, or emotional turmoil.
The drama is in the up close perspective.
Remember who you are. Create some space. Redirect your attention.
A simple Self-Mastery Technique that makes a big impact is first party communication.
It means to use “I” or “Me” or “I feel that.. ” or ” I believe …”
Using “YOU” externalizes whatever subject you’re talking about.
It makes it about other people instead of yourself.
It means that you understand a subject intellectually but haven’t internalized it. You haven’t changed who you are because of it!
Using “I” when you’re learning a new self mastery skill like spiritual communication, self-parenting, or the language of feelings will internalize the lesson more quickly. As well using first party in your daily conversations will do the same. It enables you to move from intellectualizing to emotionalizing and from externalizing to internalizing.
Saying “YOU” is a common subtle Ego defence that keeps your growth at bay and your lessons outside your consciousness.
If you want to create permanent change, taking responsibility with First Party Communication is an excellent place to begin.
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WHICH WAY IS YOUR MOMENTUM GOING?
Newton’s Law of Motion – An object in motion stays in motion.
Until… it’s acted upon by an external source.
The motion makes it easier to stay in motion because of momentum.
Which way is your momentum going or do you even have momentum?
Are you moving towards your goals or in the opposite direction?
Example: You’ve been eating well and are being fairly conscious of what you consume. Then you go on vacation and you give yourself permission to eat what you want. When you get home you continue to eat the same way you ate on vacation but you’ve picked up momentum in this area and are getting more and more habitual with your practice of eating what you want.
So now, you have a choice. Do you continue to let the momentum carry you in the direction of unconscious eating or do you STOP, and choose differently. In order to do this you have to make a conscious choice to be the force that acts upon the object in motion. In this case the object is YOU eating willy nilly.
Once you make the decision to change your course of action then your momentum will be lost. In this case it’s a good thing, because you want to stop that fast moving train and turn it around.
Now you have the opportunity to build momentum in a new direction. Do it by moving one foot in front of the other. Take small actionable steps towards eating healthier and more consciously:
-Drink one more glass of water a day
-eat 2 more fruits and vegetables a day
-decide to have only one treat every day instead of three
After a few days you’ll begin to build momentum in the direction of eating healthy again and more quickly regain focus on your goals.
Getting momentum on your side will effect the gap between you and what you want, just be aware of your direction.
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The Sanskrit word Prana means “life force” energy that moves through the body..
Emotions are part of this energy and are meant to flow.
Anger for example is a healthy emotion and when you allow anger to flow naturally through the body you receive the gifts that accompany it – boundary protection and fairness.
You may have learned from your role models or through experience that emotions like anger or shame are not to be expressed but rather denied, repressed, or diminished in some way. If due process is denied, emotional energy will linger in the body. Perhaps showing up in a tense shoulder or aching joints, depending on where you hold your stress. Contracting muscles over and over in the body is one way of attempting to restrict the flow of uncomfortable emotions. Using the mind to repress feelings is another way. If you deny feelings of anger you may turn to blaming yourself or others in order to try and process your feelings through your mind instead of feeling them in the body. This of course doesn’t work. You can’t “think” away your feelings – you have to feel them! Blaming is just another way of keeping anger at bay.
Learning to let emotions flow naturally will allow you to create a healthier body, peaceful mind, and promote spiritual growth. Take a step towards soothing your Soul by learning to process your emotions in a healthy way:
Soul Step : Take stock of slow moving emotional energy or frozen emotions in your body. Let the negative stories you hold on to be a pointer to potentially stagnant energy. Do you have stories you revisit over and over and ultimately, emotions you have yet to process? Begin to move the energy by sharing, not the story, but how you feel or felt. You can also share by writing in a journal. However be aware there is power in having a witness to your pain and sharing it with another Soul. The power of that exchange transmutes to emotional freedom within your energy.
Soul Message: What were the three top feelings that came up for you? What message did you receive as you allowed these feelings to emerge? What did they teach you?
Soul Focus: Emotional honesty doesn’t come easily but the effort will lend authenticity to your relationships and promote wisdom in the emotional realm. When you move your feelings through you instead of freezing them you began to feel more balanced on a daily basis and you are able to create emotional intimacy more easily in your relationships. You also free your energy to be used in other ways. What areas of you life are calling you to be more emotionally honest? Is it your marriage? Relationships at work? Finances or spending habits? The body’s wisdom is vast. Trust it and notice what you feel and where you feel it in the body. That’s enough to begin the healthy emotional flow of energy.
(Excerpt from Soul Steps: 52 Ways to Reconnect with Spirit – Balboa Press – Winter 2015)
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